Framing your work

The problem with "helping"

It's very common of well-meaning people to focus on "helping" the group they want to be an ally to. But the most important initial action to take is to focus on becoming more aware. This means finding ways to "help ourselves" be more conscious of the many unintentional interpersonal, group, and systemic dynamics that cause problems in the first place.

As a leader of these groups, you're probably already aware of these dynamics and the tendency to focus on women or people of color as the "cure" for inequities. Instead you're asking "what could we be unintentionally doing that is perpetuating these issues?" Without this focus, you run the risk of distancing yourself from others instead of creating solidarity.